The Law of Detachment: Embodying Self-Worth + Wealth Now

The Law of Detachment: Embodying Self-Worth + Wealth Now

Jul 10, 2023

In our journey towards consciously creating the life we desire, we often encounter the energy of disappointment and self-judgment when our expectations are not met. This can become a significant blockage that prevents us from fully enjoying and living our lives in the present moment. The Law of Detachment offers a powerful principle to help us navigate this challenge. In this blog post, we will explore the concept of detachment, its importance, and how to master it, while finding a balance between pursuing our desires and finding fulfillment in the present.


Understanding the Blockage and the Need for Detachment

Many of us face a common blockage when it comes to consciously leading our lives and manifesting our desires. The energy of disappointment or fear of it NOT happening can overshadow our ability to fully enjoy the present moment. When we find ourselves stuck in a state of dissatisfaction, constantly questioning why our dreams have not yet materialized, we lower our vibe and hinder our own progress. The key lies in recognizing that the disappointment itself is a significant barrier to creating the fulfilling life we desire.

The Law of Detachment and its Misconceptions

To break free from the grip of disappointment, I want to look at the principle of the Law of Detachment with you. This principle encourages us to let go of our attachment to specific outcomes and external circumstances.

Detachment does not imply apathy or indifference towards our desires; rather, it invites us to release the fear of not achieving our desired outcomes. By understanding that you cannot control your future, you open ourselves to the possibility of greater fulfillment and unexpected opportunities.

Embracing the Practice of Detachment

Truly mastering the Law of Detachment is about shifting our focus from dwelling on the future to finding contentment in the present moment. It is essential to acknowledge that true fulfillment cannot be solely dependent on external circumstances. Instead, we can cultivate a sense of gratitude for what we have today, while simultaneously holding space for the manifestation of our desires. By embracing the present and acknowledging the goodness already present in our lives, we open ourselves up to receive more.

The Detachment Test: Confronting Your Fear Of It NOT Manifesting

A powerful self-leadership practice I share with my clients is the Detachment Test, to discover our level of attachment by reflecting on a specific future vision we desire. 

I invite you to go sit or stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and think about what you desire most. Then ask yourself out loud: "What if this vision does not happen for me?" Initially, this question will probably evoke fear and discomfort. Your ego will NOT like this question, because it likes the false sense of control of ‘knowing’ what will happen next — even when you can never ever know what the future holds in store for you.

However, by allowing yourself to sit with the discomfort, you can begin to detach from the outcome and explore alternative possibilities. Tap into your imagination and begin to think of different future realities that you would also love to live. It’ll help you to let go of the fear of your desires not being fulfilled while remaining open to surprises and new paths.


*I talk more about the Detachment Test and practice in Episode 3 of our podcast.

The Liberating Power of Detachment 

As we deepen our understanding and practice of detachment, we unlock a sense of liberation. Embracing the impermanence of life and detaching our happiness, worth, and wealth from specific outcomes liberates us from anxiety and control. We learn to trust in the unfolding of life and recognize that there are multiple paths to fulfillment. When we align our energy with our desires and remain open to the present moment, we attract new opportunities and experiences that may surpass our initial expectations.

Mastering the Law of Detachment requires finding a delicate balance between actively pursuing your desires and embracing the present moment.

By releasing your attachment to specific outcomes, you free ourselves from the fear of not achieving them and open yourself up to receiving the goodness that is already present in your life today. 

Ironically, as you embody the energy of your desires and engage fully with the present moment, you become aligned with the flow of life, and your dreams manifest with more ease and often in ways you could’ve never anticipated.



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☀️ Register now and join our free virtual She Who Leads Meetup to check in with yourself, align with your purpose & casually connect with other women who are also leading their own paths.

🎧 Listen to She Who Leads Podcast Episode 3 "The Law of Detachment" to Unhook Your Worth, Joy + Power From A Potential Future Result

🎧 Tune into Episode 2 of our podcast on how to self-lead yourself through the liminal space and actualize your dreams and goals — and to make the liminal space feel good.

The SWL Journal — The Liminal Space: Navigating the Discomfort that Comes With Growth


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